I love this quote from one of Rumi's poems - paraphrased - "Act as if it's all rigged in your favour".
This to me is a very clever sentence, and an affirmation that is real and actionable. When one acts "as if" things are rigged in their favour, then every event is cast in a different light. The seemingly unfortunate events can be appreciated, for this too is part of the "rigging". For instance, ageing and death are life's way of rigging in your favour. Imagine not dying and having the world so full of people we'd be like sardines in a can - death is rigged in your favour. Imagine not ageing. Not having the opportunity to let go of youthful narcissism - not losing the "war" on getting wrinkly. Things are rigged in your favour.
Acting "as if" is playing. It is not imagining or believing there is a supernatural power that is bestowing miracles and curses. In that model, prayer and surrender are the tools. Acting "as if" is acting, and it is taking action. It is playing with the idea that everything is rigged in your favour. It does not suggest things are actually rigged. For if they were really rigged in your favour, that implies someone else's life is rigged against them. If a playing field is tipped in a fortunate direction for you, it means it is tipped in an unfortunate position for the other team. If god is on your side he's not on the other side. The way we usually feel successful is by "winning" something - in other words, comparing ourselves in some way to others, or to former versions of ourselves. Winning and losing mutually arise, like up and down.
Children know how to act "as if". They can slip into imaginative roles easily, maintaining the perspective that it is all in fun. The game is not ultimately serious. But you can for a time act "as if" it is. When you act "as if", your innate intuition, playfulness and joy are available, potentially allowing more skill in action. Acting "as if" actually works, because it recognizes and works with what is actually happening.